Free dating sites offer anonymity at the onset but if you live in the same city as the people in your dating pool (which is how it usually is) you most likely have stared at a few friendly faces of which could be a good match for you in real life.
Although joining free dating sites have lately become a social norm, a lot of people are still a tad hesitant to admit they’ve turned to the internet for love - it seems much too ‘out there’ or ‘desperate’ but deep down inside we’re all looking for love.
Looking for love is something every one of us takes part in but no one ever really announces it to the world. That’s why free dating sites are somewhat embarrassing to say you’re a part of. Imagine the awkwardness, then, when someone you know shows up among your matches. Get ready for it, because it’s bound to happen and can be handled in one of several ways:
• If it’s someone you’re attracted to: You must be doing something right and it seems fate has just handed you the perfect opportunity to make small talk and see if they’ve been checking you out too. You’d probably be totally surprised that they’re doing the free dating thing and subtly hinting at your interest in turning a casual acquaintance into something more permanent. Either way, you get to open the door and see if they sail through.
• If it’s someone you’ve met in passing but don’t want to go out with the polite thing to do is move right along and pass them by. There’s no need to harp on the point that you both are single and felt the need to join online personals or free dating sites. If that person wanted everyone to know they were looking for a date online I’m sure they would find a way to let the world know. The best thing to do is act as if you never saw their profile and hope they’re courteous enough to do the same for you as well.
• If it’s someone you hate: The danger of free dating sites is that you’re likely to come across a person you would rather have not seen - someone like an x-lover. The beauty is that you get to do so in the privacy of your own home, and no one ever has to know your business at all. Least of all the object of your disgust. If the very sight of a profile makes your face contort in horrible and extremely unattractive ways, it’s probably safe to say you don’t want to date the person it belongs to. It’s also probably safe to say you don’t want them knowing you’re on the site too, so the best thing to do is block them immediately and without hesitation. Believe me, they’d thank you for it, if the two of you were still speaking.
Some free online dating sites like Plentyoffish.com offer their members the ability to keep their profile private whilst they can search for single members but they can’t be found unless they have already made contact with that person. We haven’t been able to verify if KissCafe.com is offering the same perk but we’re sure most free dating sites will be offering this in the future.
My friend Denise found her soul-mate on free dating sites. It ended up being a close friend that had showed her the world of internet dating and online personals. She was truly successful on the job front like most Canadian women in their 30s. She had a successful career, a great home filled with expensive furniture but she never had any luck with relationships in any regard. She’d dated a few guys here and there over the years, but it just never really worked out the way she planned it. Her friends often compared her to Sarah Jessica Parker and the on-going failures in her relationships made her simply desperate. She was so sick of pointlessly dating men with nothing more than a fling in mind.
She was on the verge of serious mental breakdown after she bumped into a friend in a cocktail party. They were very close during their university years and they shared the same dorm. Afterwards they lost touch with each other.
She felt it was great to see her friend after such a long period of time. She confessed that when she introduced her to her boyfriend of which she hadn’t met on any free dating sites, she was a tad jealous. He was very attractive. “Lucky girl”, she thought and when she complemented her about her date she asked her about hers. All she could say was “Well, I’ve been single for a while now”, that’s really all she could say. Her friend repeated the question and she smiled and tried to avoid the subject. The next day her friend called her and asked if she would like to meet for a coffee. She had thoughts about not going but eventually gave it for the sake of the friendship.
During the coffee time, her friend asked her many questions about her life. She generally wouldn’t share her problems with just anyone but they were long-time friends and I’m sure she trusted her. She told her of her failures in intimate relationships. After listening attentively her friend suggested that she join free dating sites. Before she could get a word in to protest the idea she insisted that free online dating is much different than regular dating and the offs of finding someone is increased exponentially. She explained how she had been having the same trouble for many years but she heard from a good friend about a reliable free dating sites. She gave it a shot and today she can safely say that’s how she met her boyfriend. Denise decided to register at a few free dating sites later that night.
She created my profile in a couple of popular free dating sites like PlentyofFish and FreeDateClub. She met and ended up dating quite a few guys through these free dating sites before she met her husband Jason. They dated for about 9 months and decided to tie the knot last Christmas. Today he couldn’t ask for anything more in her life because she feels she has found her best friend and soul-mate in Jason. She still thanks her old University friend and the free dating sites she registered at. ; they’ve brought bright sunshine into her life and would like to let single women out there who are afraid to join free dating sites to take the leap of faith cause you never know what you can find.
My friend never thought she would find the love of her life through free dating sites. She has been an active member in the dating community for quite some time and even dated a few gorgeous guys but they all turned into flings. Maybe she wasn’t looking to be in a serious relationship anyhow. Her last experience was too much for her to handle. She was in a relationship for 3 years and life was going smooth. She even turned down a very lucrative job offer in another city so she could be with boyfriend. She was a part-time model and wanted to make it big in the fashion arena. She used to finance her portfolio shoots and I even accompanied her many times to her shoots. I felt a bit out of place in there but I wanted her to be happy and that’s why would support her every decision, even her decision to join free dating sites. I look back now and laugh at it all, how she loved that guy and how humorous the whole situation was.
Gradually she would accept longer and further away shoots, financed by her boyfriend, and would be absent for days without telling her friends or family where she was. Still she tried to make it work for both their sakes, but one day I discovered she had been seeing another guy on the side. A million thoughts raced through my mind about what to do. Eventually her boyfriend found out and threw her out of his home and his life once and for all.
Since that week, it seems she’s learned not to put so much trust in relationships until you truly know the person; she refrains from emotional attachments now. It’s been three months since they broke up and she’s met another guy from free dating sites. I’m not sure what lies ahead for them but as of now they seem happy and its all thanks to the free dating sites and the services they offer.
Dating among adults isn’t always for love or romance but can also be only for sex as well - sex and sex only. As sexual relations are a natural human affair it’s no surpise that people who are seeking these types of affairs register at free dating sites and try to find a mate. Whether they have joined for sex or for romance or simply to meet friends for a date, they have come to the right place because they don’t have to ever pay anything.
Other people join free dating sites because they want to scam people into giving them their personal information. They take this personal information and try to steal their identity and basically rob them of all their money - or at the very least milk them of millions if they can. In this case one of the best things to do is read about free dating sites safety just to make sure you’re not getting scammed or potentially getting yourself into trouble.
Another reason people join free dating sites is simply to meet new friends. Some people are much to busy to go out and find new friends or might be much too shy. These type of people love free dating sites especially because they don’t have to fork out cash for such a menial task.
Then there is another reason to join and that is to spread news. Some people like to use free dating sites to promote their business, services or the new mix-cd. I say why not. I don’t mind people joining my site if they simple want to promote themselves in some way or another. This is another reason and it’s truly not bad because it helps build relationships and it helps get people closer to each other.
Dating and meeting people is very important and a basic human functions. It is an important activity that both men and women participate in on a daily basis no matter where you are from. The point is, if you want to save your money and meet someone new in order to bring them into your life for any reason, don’t join a paid dating site, join a free dating site and take your time to meet someone. Eventually it will pay off.
Yes it is true that the world if single people and free dating sites is taking off especially with the divorce rate ever increasing, it’s no wonder these sites are popping up all over the place.
The originals like Plentyoffish.com (which is un-undoubtedly the largest free online dating site in the world) and Kisscafe.com (which arguably could be considered the second largest free dating site in Canada) have had their fair share of membership sign-ups but it only gets better because the divorce rate is expected to increase during this global recession and so will the number of single people looking for a date.
But there’s more to add to this information. Free dating sites are also now becoming the avenue that cheaters are taking to meet someone and have an affair with. Why? Because free dating sites don’t cost anything to join so they are free to contact as many people as they like for discreet sexual relations - relations behind their spouses back.
I have to honestly comment that although free dating sites are a great way to save cash rather than spend it meeting people of the opposite sex they can be abused. Paid dating sites on the other hand don’t have members that are out to scam people because who would pay to do that? They want freebies.
So the conclusion? Although free dating sites are taking off we as owners of these sites have to be aware of the fact that we could be contributing to the demise of many families out there and even though this may be the case there seems there’s nothing we can really do about it.
